{"id":105,"date":"2016-03-30T19:11:47","date_gmt":"2016-03-30T17:11:47","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.bratislavapsycholog.sk\/?p=105"},"modified":"2016-03-30T20:20:24","modified_gmt":"2016-03-30T18:20:24","slug":"nedotknutelny-nie-nikto","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/psychologickabratislava.sk\/index.php\/2016\/03\/30\/nedotknutelny-nie-nikto\/","title":{"rendered":"Nedotknute\u013en\u00fd nie je nikto"},"content":{"rendered":"<blockquote><p><strong>M\u00e1m o\u00a06 rokov mlad\u0161ieho man\u017eela, ktor\u00fd sa spr\u00e1va ako dospel\u00e9 die\u0165a. Jeho \u201etrucovanie\u201c trvalo na za\u010diatku n\u00e1\u0161ho spolo\u010dn\u00e9ho \u017eivota len p\u00e1r hod\u00edn, nesk\u00f4r dn\u00ed, ale teraz, po 19 rokoch spolo\u010dn\u00e9ho \u017eivota, s\u00fa to u\u017e mesiace. Sta\u010d\u00ed mal\u00fd nes\u00fahlas alebo slab\u00e1 kritika jeho ch\u00fdb a\u00a0m\u00e1 d\u00f4vod nebavi\u0165 sa s\u00a0celou rodinou. Sp\u00e1va v\u00a0druhej izbe, navar\u00ed si s\u00e1m alebo neje ni\u010d, \u010do navar\u00edm ja. Neprisp\u00f4sob\u00ed sa nikomu, ale jemu sa musia v\u0161etci, ak chc\u00fa s\u00a0n\u00edm vych\u00e1dza\u0165. Niet v\u00a0\u0148om \u0161tipka asertivity. A\u00a0mne sa tak\u00fd hnus\u00ed. Aj vlastn\u00e1 matka sa ob\u00e1va protire\u010di\u0165 mu, aby ho nebodaj nenahnevala. Nech\u00e1 ma na v\u0161etko, \u010do sa t\u00fdka rodiny, \u00faplne sam\u00fa a\u00a0star\u00e1 sa len o\u00a0svoju pr\u00e1cu na chalupe, ktor\u00e1 raz bude jeho. Je to diagn\u00f3za ktor\u00fa treba lie\u010di\u0165 alebo oneskoren\u00e1 puberta v\u00a040 rokoch, z\u00a0ktorej vyrastie? Oplat\u00ed sa ne\u010dinne \u010daka\u0165 alebo pre to treba nie\u010do urobi\u0165? <\/strong><\/p>\n<p><strong>Anna CH., Ko\u0161eca<\/strong><\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"size-medium wp-image-81 alignleft\" src=\"http:\/\/www.bratislavapsycholog.sk\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/03\/nedotknutelny-300x225.jpg\" alt=\"nedotknutelny\" width=\"300\" height=\"225\" srcset=\"https:\/\/psychologickabratislava.sk\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/03\/nedotknutelny-300x225.jpg 300w, https:\/\/psychologickabratislava.sk\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/03\/nedotknutelny.jpg 400w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 300px) 100vw, 300px\" \/>Mil\u00e1 pani Anna, za\u010dnem hne\u010f pri prvej vete v\u00e1\u0161ho listu. P\u00ed\u0161ete, \u017ee man\u017eel je o\u00a06 rokov mlad\u0161\u00ed, \u010do nie je ve\u013ek\u00fd vekov\u00fd rozdiel, ale mohol by by\u0165 v\u00fdznamn\u00fd. Mo\u017eno so mnou mnoh\u00ed nebud\u00fa s\u00fahlasi\u0165, ale mu\u017ei si obvykle h\u013eadaj\u00fa star\u0161ie partnerky, lebo v\u00a0nich, aj ke\u010f nie \u00faplne vedome, h\u013eadaj\u00fa svoje matky, ktor\u00e9 by sa o\u00a0nich postarali. Zost\u00e1vaj\u00fa tak cel\u00fd \u017eivot v\u00a0detskej poz\u00edcii vo vz\u0165ahu k partnerke, \u010do je extr\u00e9mne n\u00e1ro\u010dn\u00e1 kon\u0161tel\u00e1cia. S\u00fa \u017eeny, ktor\u00e9 si komplement\u00e1rne h\u013eadaj\u00fa mlad\u0161\u00edch partnerov, lebo im rola matky vyhovuje. Z\u00a0v\u00e1\u0161ho listu je v\u0161ak zrejm\u00e9, \u017ee v\u00e1m tak\u00e1to poloha moment\u00e1lne nevyhovuje.<\/p>\n<p>Tie\u017e sa v\u00a0prvej vete zmie\u0148ujete, \u017ee sa man\u017eel spr\u00e1va ako dospel\u00e9 die\u0165a. Akoby u\u017e len to spojenie ne\u0161lo dokopy, ke\u010f je niekto dospel\u00fd, u\u017e nie je die\u0165a a\u00a0naopak. Pravdou v\u0161ak je, \u017ee v\u00a0ka\u017edom z\u00a0n\u00e1s, aj ke\u010f sme u\u017e d\u00e1vno dospel\u00ed, ost\u00e1va kus die\u0165a\u0165a. Je to zmes toho, \u010do sme za\u017e\u00edvali my sami ako deti, ako sme sa c\u00edtili, ako sa k\u00a0n\u00e1m d\u00f4le\u017eit\u00e9 osoby, najm\u00e4 rodi\u010dia, vz\u0165ahovali a\u00a0spr\u00e1vali a\u00a0ako sme na to reagovali. Die\u0165a s\u00a0nami po\u010das v\u00fdvoja dozrieva alebo sa fixuje v\u00a0detskej polohe a\u00a0prejavuje sa to aj v dospelom \u017eivote a\u00a0a\u00a0spr\u00e1van\u00ed. Toto die\u0165a v\u00a0n\u00e1s je bu\u010f vesel\u00e9 a\u00a0hrav\u00e9, prejavuje sa napr\u00edklad v\u00a0tom, \u017ee vieme by\u0165 vesel\u00ed a\u00a0hrav\u00ed vo vz\u0165ahu k\u00a0svojim de\u0165om, k\u00a0z\u00e1\u013eub\u00e1m, hr\u00e1me sa r\u00f4zne hry aj ako dospel\u00ed, alebo je toto die\u0165a v\u00a0n\u00e1s zranen\u00e9, nepochopen\u00e9, neprijat\u00e9 tak\u00e9, ak\u00e9 je, ohrdnut\u00e9, urazen\u00e9 a\u00a0v\u00a0kone\u010dnom d\u00f4sledku nahnevan\u00e9. Pokia\u013e m\u00e1 die\u0165a\u00a0v\u00a0n\u00e1s prevahu oproti dospel\u00e9mu sp\u00f4sobu fungovania, m\u00f4\u017ee to vyzera\u0165 podobne, ako p\u00ed\u0161ete o\u00a0man\u017eelovi.<\/p>\n<p>A\u00a0teraz po\u010fme k\u00a0v\u00e1\u0161mu man\u017eelovi. Probl\u00e9m v\u00e1\u0161ho man\u017eela by som nenazvala oneskorenou pubertou. Ako ste si sama v\u0161imli, zn\u00e1mky vz\u0165ahova\u010dnosti, ur\u00e1\u017elivosti, precitlivenosti na svoju osobu sa objavovali od za\u010diatku vz\u0165ahu a\u00a0vekom sa zhor\u0161uj\u00fa, respekt\u00edve naberaj\u00fa na intenzite. Ak by sa u\u00a0v\u00e1\u0161ho man\u017eela dalo hovori\u0165 o\u00a0nejakej poruche, tak by i\u0161lo o\u00a0narcistick\u00fa poruchu osobnosti. T\u00e1 sa prejavuje pr\u00e1ve vz\u0165ahova\u010dnos\u0165ou, citlivos\u0165ou na kritiku, neuznanie, m\u00f4\u017ee sa vekom meni\u0165, slabn\u00fa\u0165 alebo sa prejavy m\u00f4\u017eu, naopak, zosil\u0148ova\u0165. Za jeho v\u00fdbu\u0161n\u00fdmi prejavmi sa v\u0161ak d\u00e1 vidie\u0165 to mal\u00e9 zranen\u00e9 die\u0165a, ktor\u00e9 ve\u013emi bol\u00ed ak\u00fdko\u013evek n\u00e1znak neprijatia a\u00a0reaguje hnevom. Treba v\u0161ak rozumie\u0165 aj tomu, \u017ee v\u00e1\u0161 man\u017eel je dospel\u00fd \u010dlovek zodpovedn\u00fd za svoje konanie. V\u00a0pr\u00edpade, \u017ee on s\u00e1m na svojom spr\u00e1van\u00ed nechce ni\u010d meni\u0165, vy ani \u017eiadny odborn\u00edk mu nedok\u00e1\u017eete nijako pom\u00f4c\u0165.<\/p>\n<p>Pre v\u00e1s by preto v\u00a0tejto situ\u00e1cii mohlo by\u0165 pomocou stara\u0165 sa viac o\u00a0seba a\u00a0svoje vlastn\u00e9 blaho, pr\u00edpadne da\u0165 man\u017eelovi jasne a\u00a0nepochybn\u00fdm sp\u00f4sobom najavo, \u017ee t\u00e1to forma jeho reakci\u00ed v\u00e1m ve\u013emi ubli\u017euje a\u00a0chcete, aby sa pok\u00fasil nie\u010do so sebou robi\u0165. Ak to odmietne, \u010do je dos\u0165 pravdepodobn\u00e9, je na v\u00e1s ako dospelo sa k tomu postav\u00edte. \u017di\u0165 s\u00a0n\u00e1dejou, \u017ee sa partner mo\u017eno raz zmen\u00ed, je ut\u00f3piou.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>M\u00e1m o\u00a06 rokov mlad\u0161ieho man\u017eela, ktor\u00fd sa spr\u00e1va ako dospel\u00e9 die\u0165a. Jeho \u201etrucovanie\u201c trvalo na za\u010diatku n\u00e1\u0161ho spolo\u010dn\u00e9ho \u017eivota len p\u00e1r hod\u00edn, nesk\u00f4r dn\u00ed, ale teraz, po 19 rokoch spolo\u010dn\u00e9ho \u017eivota, s\u00fa to u\u017e mesiace. Sta\u010d\u00ed mal\u00fd nes\u00fahlas alebo slab\u00e1 kritika jeho ch\u00fdb a\u00a0m\u00e1 d\u00f4vod nebavi\u0165 sa s\u00a0celou rodinou. Sp\u00e1va v\u00a0druhej izbe, navar\u00ed si s\u00e1m [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":81,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_monsterinsights_skip_tracking":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_active":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_note":"","_monsterinsights_sitenote_category":0,"footnotes":""},"categories":[6],"tags":[],"yoast_head":"<!-- This site is optimized with the Yoast SEO plugin v21.2 - https:\/\/yoast.com\/wordpress\/plugins\/seo\/ -->\n<title>Nedotknute\u013en\u00fd nie je nikto - Mgr. 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