{"id":77,"date":"2016-03-30T19:02:21","date_gmt":"2016-03-30T17:02:21","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.bratislavapsycholog.sk\/?p=77"},"modified":"2016-03-30T20:22:43","modified_gmt":"2016-03-30T18:22:43","slug":"neviem-co-prebudenym-citom","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/psychologickabratislava.sk\/index.php\/2016\/03\/30\/neviem-co-prebudenym-citom\/","title":{"rendered":"Neviem, \u010do s prebuden\u00fdm citom"},"content":{"rendered":"<blockquote><p><strong>Vy\u0161e 30 rokov som vydat\u00e1, av\u0161ak man\u017eelstvo je len form\u00e1lne. Mu\u017e holduje alkoholu, nikdy sa nedok\u00e1\u017ee so mnou porozpr\u00e1va\u0165 ani o\u00a0t\u00fdch najbe\u017enej\u0161\u00edch veciach. Ako man\u017eelia u\u017e spolu ne\u017eijeme najmenej 14 rokov. Nikoho som cel\u00e9 tie roky nemala. A\u017e teraz, na star\u00e9 kolen\u00e1 (m\u00e1m 60 rokov), som neodolala a\u00a0m\u00e1m int\u00edmny vz\u0165ah s\u00a0kolegom. Je v\u00a0mojom veku a\u00a0tie\u017e je \u017eenat\u00fdm \u010di\u017ee \u017eiadne rozb\u00edjanie man\u017eelstva, len \u010dist\u00e1 \u201ech\u00e9mia\u201c. Spytujem si svedomie, \u010di rob\u00edm dobre, no na druhej strane m\u00f4j int\u00edmny vz\u0165ah s\u00a0 man\u017eelom neexistuje. Asi pred polrokom som zistila, \u017ee spom\u00ednan\u00fd kolega m\u00e1 pomer aj s\u00a0\u010fal\u0161ou, mlad\u0161ou (48-ro\u010dnou) kolegy\u0148ou. Chcela by som zo vz\u0165ahu s\u00a0n\u00edm vyc\u00fava\u0165, ale je to \u0165a\u017ek\u00e9. Po rokoch kone\u010dne c\u00edtim nie\u010do, \u010do dlho \u201espalo\u201c. Navy\u0161e, on na chce! Ako m\u00e1m postupova\u0165, \u010do m\u00e1m robi\u0165? Pros\u00edm, pora\u010fte mi&#8230;.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><strong>\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><strong>Jolanka J., Martin<\/strong><\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"size-medium wp-image-85 alignleft\" src=\"http:\/\/www.bratislavapsycholog.sk\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/03\/prebudeny-cit-300x225.jpg\" alt=\"city\" width=\"300\" height=\"225\" srcset=\"https:\/\/psychologickabratislava.sk\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/03\/prebudeny-cit-300x225.jpg 300w, https:\/\/psychologickabratislava.sk\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/03\/prebudeny-cit.jpg 400w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 300px) 100vw, 300px\" \/>Z\u00a0v\u00e1\u0161ho listu vn\u00edma hne\u010f nieko\u013eko protikladov, z\u00e1rove\u0148 tie\u017e akoby vn\u00fatorn\u00fd boj medzi t\u00fdm, \u010do by ste chceli a\u00a0\u010do v\u00a0skuto\u010dnosti m\u00e1te.<\/p>\n<p>Na jednej strane p\u00ed\u0161ete, \u017ee \u017eijete v\u00a0man\u017eelstve, ktor\u00e9 trv\u00e1 30 rokov, je len form\u00e1lne a\u00a0bol to pre v\u00e1s omyl. Na druhej strane ste stretli mu\u017ea, ktor\u00fd v\u00e1s ok\u00fazlil a\u00a0vzbudil vo v\u00e1s nie\u010do, \u010do ste u\u017e dlho nec\u00edtili. C\u00edtite sa s\u00a0n\u00edm dobre, ale z\u00e1rove\u0148 by ste chceli zo vz\u0165ahu vyc\u00fava\u0165.<\/p>\n<p>Ak by som na to mala \u00eds\u0165 postupne, tak si mysl\u00edm, \u017ee vek nezohr\u00e1va \u00falohu v\u00a0tom, ako a\u00a0\u010di pre\u017e\u00edvate milostn\u00e9 vz\u0165ahy a\u00a0vzplanutia. Po\u010det pre\u017eit\u00fdch rokov, pr\u00edpadne aktu\u00e1lna \u017eivotn\u00e1 situ\u00e1cia, napr\u00edklad man\u017eelstvo alebo deti, do nich vstupuj\u00fa len ako extern\u00e9 faktory. Povedala by som, \u017ee je prirodzenou s\u00fa\u010das\u0165ou ka\u017ed\u00e9ho z\u00a0n\u00e1s vn\u00edma\u0165 vlastn\u00fa sexualitu ako s\u00fa\u010das\u0165 seba, v\u00a0r\u00f4znych etap\u00e1ch \u017eivota a\u00a0v\u00a0r\u00f4znej intenzite. Rozumiem tie\u017e tomu, \u017ee mimoman\u017eelsk\u00fd milostn\u00fd pomer v\u00e1m m\u00f4\u017ee d\u00e1va\u0165 nie\u010do, \u010do v\u00e1m ned\u00e1va v\u00e1\u0161 man\u017eel, pr\u00edpadne man\u017eelstvo a\u00a0v\u00a0s\u00fa\u010dasnosti to pre\u017e\u00edvate ako ist\u00e9 znovuprebudenie svojej sexuality, ktorej sa prirodzene nechcete vzda\u0165.<\/p>\n<p>Pr\u00edde mi v\u0161ak \u0161koda, \u017ee, ako sama p\u00ed\u0161ete, sa neviete s\u00a0man\u017eelom na t\u00e9mu svojho spolu\u017eitia otvorene porozpr\u00e1va\u0165 aj napriek tomu, \u017ee vo vz\u0165ahu zotrv\u00e1vate. Vyvst\u00e1va potom ot\u00e1zka, do akej miery je zmyslupln\u00e9 zost\u00e1va\u0165 vo vz\u0165ahu, ktor\u00fd v\u00e1s nenap\u013a\u0148a a\u00a0h\u013ead\u00e1 pote\u0161enie mimo neho. Mo\u017eno by bolo fajn, kedy ste na\u0161li odpove\u010f na ot\u00e1zku, \u010do je pre v\u00e1s d\u00f4le\u017eit\u00e9 a\u00a0prvorad\u00e9. Predpoklad\u00e1m, \u017ee z\u00a0nejak\u00e9ho d\u00f4vodu v\u00a0man\u017eelstve zotrv\u00e1vate, aj ke\u010f je z\u00a0v\u00e1\u0161ho poh\u013eadu nefunk\u010dn\u00e9 a\u00a0len form\u00e1lne. Je d\u00f4le\u017eit\u00e9 si ujasni\u0165, \u010do by ste vy sama chceli, \u010do je pre v\u00e1s d\u00f4le\u017eit\u00e9. Vn\u00edmam v\u0161ak aj to, \u017ee je v\u00e1m v\u00a0mileneckom vz\u0165ahu dobre, av\u0161ak je tu \u010fal\u0161ia najmenej jedna \u017eena a\u00a0rada by ste z\u00a0tohto vyc\u00favali. Stoj\u00edte akoby v\u00a0strede cesty a\u00a0neviete, ktor\u00fd smer si vybra\u0165.<\/p>\n<p>V\u00a0pr\u00edpade, \u017ee je pre v\u00e1s najd\u00f4le\u017eitej\u0161ie pre\u017e\u00edva\u0165 znovuobjaven\u00fa sexualitu, potom je tu e\u0161te jedna \u201emal\u00e1 komplik\u00e1cia\u201c a\u00a0tou je v\u00e1\u0161 man\u017eelsk\u00fd zv\u00e4zok.<\/p>\n<p>Aj v\u00a0nefunk\u010dnom vz\u0165ahu je mo\u017en\u00e9 veci meni\u0165, pokia\u013e obaja partneri chc\u00fa a\u00a0nie\u010do \u2013 \u010das a\u00a0n\u00e1mahu, do toho investuj\u00fa, rovnako je tie\u017e mo\u017en\u00e9 znovupre\u017e\u00edva\u0165 vlastn\u00fa sexualitu aj tam, kde akoby dlho nebola. Za predpokladu, \u017ee je v\u0161ak v\u00e1\u0161 vz\u0165ah naozaj len o\u00a0spolu\u017eit\u00ed a\u00a0nie s\u00fa\u017eit\u00ed, je fajn zamyslie\u0165 sa, ako a\u00a0\u010di v\u00f4bec chcete t\u00fato situ\u00e1ciu rie\u0161i\u0165.<\/p>\n<p>Najlep\u0161ie je za\u010da\u0165 od seba. Chcete na\u010falej \u017ei\u0165 vo vz\u0165ahu, ktor\u00fd v\u00e1s nenap\u013a\u0148a? Chcete, aby va\u0161e man\u017eelstvo bolo in\u00e9, pr\u00edpadne z\u00a0neho chcete od\u00eds\u0165? Alebo len chcete pre\u017e\u00edva\u0165 to pr\u00edjemn\u00e9, \u010do v\u00e1m v\u00a0s\u00fa\u010dasnosti \u017eivot prin\u00e1\u0161a, bezbolestne a\u00a0nemusie\u0165 rie\u0161i\u0165 veci okolo?<\/p>\n<p>Odpovede na tieto ot\u00e1zky by v\u00e1s mohli navigova\u0165 ku spr\u00e1vnemu rozhodnutiu, preto\u017ee na viacer\u00fdch stoli\u010dk\u00e1ch sa zv\u00e4\u010d\u0161a dlho sedie\u0165 ned\u00e1. Tak\u00e1to situ\u00e1cia navy\u0161e m\u00f4\u017ee rovnako prispieva\u0165 k\u00a0prehlbovaniu neporozumenia v\u00a0man\u017eelstve.<\/p>\n<p>Aj nefunk\u010dn\u00e9mu man\u017eelstvu mo\u017eno efekt\u00edvne pom\u00f4c\u0165, napr\u00edklad p\u00e1rovou terapiou. Tak\u00e1to lie\u010dba ma v\u0161ak v\u00fdznam len vtedy, ak obaja partneri maj\u00fa rovnak\u00fd z\u00e1ujem a\u00a0t\u00fdm je skvalitni\u0165 vz\u00e1jomn\u00e9 spolu\u017eitie.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Vy\u0161e 30 rokov som vydat\u00e1, av\u0161ak man\u017eelstvo je len form\u00e1lne. Mu\u017e holduje alkoholu, nikdy sa nedok\u00e1\u017ee so mnou porozpr\u00e1va\u0165 ani o\u00a0t\u00fdch najbe\u017enej\u0161\u00edch veciach. Ako man\u017eelia u\u017e spolu ne\u017eijeme najmenej 14 rokov. Nikoho som cel\u00e9 tie roky nemala. A\u017e teraz, na star\u00e9 kolen\u00e1 (m\u00e1m 60 rokov), som neodolala a\u00a0m\u00e1m int\u00edmny vz\u0165ah s\u00a0kolegom. 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