{"id":93,"date":"2016-03-30T19:06:58","date_gmt":"2016-03-30T17:06:58","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.bratislavapsycholog.sk\/?p=93"},"modified":"2016-03-30T20:21:55","modified_gmt":"2016-03-30T18:21:55","slug":"odputat-sa-byva-tazke","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/psychologickabratislava.sk\/index.php\/2016\/03\/30\/odputat-sa-byva-tazke\/","title":{"rendered":"Odp\u00fata\u0165 sa b\u00fdva \u0165a\u017ek\u00e9"},"content":{"rendered":"<blockquote><p><strong>Dobr\u00fd de\u0148, chcem V\u00e1s po\u017eiada\u0165 o\u00a0radu v\u00a0tak trochu delik\u00e1tnej veci. V\u00a0tridsiatich rokoch som si kone\u010dne na\u0161la priate\u013ea, ku ktor\u00e9mu som pres\u0165ahovala od svojej mamy. T\u00e1 to v\u0161ak nesie dos\u0165 \u0165a\u017eko (ostala doma sama s\u00a0ma\u010dkou a\u00a0papag\u00e1jom) a\u00a0pod r\u00f4znymi z\u00e1mienkami n\u00e1s \u010dasto nav\u0161tevuje. Raz m\u00e1 nape\u010den\u00fd kol\u00e1\u010d, inokedy sa je pr\u00e1ce urodilo nie\u010do na z\u00e1hradke, alebo \u201elen tak ide okolo\u201c, tak sa zastavila. Priate\u013eovi to u\u017e za\u010d\u00edna vadi\u0165 a\u00a0tla\u010di na m\u0148a, aby som to cel\u00e9 nejako vyrie\u0161ila. Ja by som u\u017e tie\u017e rada viedla samostatn\u00fd \u017eivot, no mamu m\u00e1m rada a\u00a0nechcem jej len tak zak\u00e1za\u0165, aby k\u00a0n\u00e1m chodila, alebo aby sme sa v\u00eddali. Mysl\u00edm, \u017ee by to mohla nies\u0165 ve\u013emi \u0165a\u017eko, \u010do ke\u010f sa uraz\u00ed? Nechcem by\u0165 t\u00e1 zl\u00e1, no c\u00edtim, \u017ee m\u00e1m v\u00a0ruk\u00e1ch pr\u00edli\u0161 ve\u013ek\u00fa zodpovednos\u0165. Neviem \u010di to ustoj\u00edm. Ako jej m\u00e1m poveda\u0165, \u017ee n\u00e1s u\u017e tak trochu otravuje? <\/strong><\/p>\n<p><strong>Romana Z., P\u00fachov<\/strong><\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"size-medium wp-image-84 alignleft\" src=\"http:\/\/www.bratislavapsycholog.sk\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/03\/odputat-sa-300x225.jpg\" alt=\"odputanie\" width=\"300\" height=\"225\" srcset=\"https:\/\/psychologickabratislava.sk\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/03\/odputat-sa-300x225.jpg 300w, https:\/\/psychologickabratislava.sk\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/03\/odputat-sa.jpg 400w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 300px) 100vw, 300px\" \/>Probl\u00e9m, ktor\u00fd opisujete je pomerne \u010dast\u00fd. S\u00favis\u00ed so schopnos\u0165ou alebo sk\u00f4r neschopnos\u0165ou rodi\u010dov odp\u00fata\u0165 sa od svojich det\u00ed, ale aj naopak det\u00ed od svojich rodi\u010dov. Je pravda, \u017ee necha\u0165 die\u0165a \u017ei\u0165 svoj vlastn\u00fd \u017eivot je pre ka\u017ed\u00e9ho rodi\u010da n\u00e1ro\u010dn\u00e9. M\u00e1 pocit, \u017ee o\u00a0die\u0165a prich\u00e1dza, ak u\u017e ne\u017eij\u00fa v\u00a0spolo\u010dnej dom\u00e1cnosti, ak si n\u00e1jde partnera, ktor\u00e9mu venuje preva\u017en\u00fa \u010das\u0165 pozornosti. Pokia\u013e t\u00fato svoju rodi\u010dovsk\u00fa rolu rodi\u010d \u00faplne nezvl\u00e1dne, napr\u00edklad pre vlastn\u00fd pocit osamelosti alebo siln\u00fa citov\u00fa naviazanos\u0165, sp\u00f4sob\u00ed t\u00fdm probl\u00e9m aj svojmu die\u0165a\u0165u. To m\u00e1 potom, tak ako vy, pri osamostat\u0148ovan\u00ed sa probl\u00e9my a\u00a0pocity viny vo\u010di rodi\u010dovi, ktor\u00e9ho zanech\u00e1va doma sam\u00e9ho. A\u00a0pocit viny, pocit, \u017ee ste zl\u00e1, ke\u010f sa v\u00e1m nep\u00e1\u010dia \u010dast\u00e9 matkine n\u00e1v\u0161tevy je pr\u00e1cu tou zbra\u0148ou, ktor\u00fa rodi\u010d, \u010dasto nevedome, pou\u017e\u00edva vo\u010di vlastn\u00e9mu die\u0165a\u0165u v\u00a0jeho ceste \u017eivotom a\u00a0ktorou si zabezpe\u010duje, aj ke\u010f iba\u00a0povrchne deklarovan\u00fa, priaze\u0148 potomka.<\/p>\n<p>Zd\u00e1 sa, \u017ee s\u00a0mamou ste na seba silne citovo naviazan\u00e9, ve\u010f ste boli v\u00a0jej \u017eivote pr\u00edtomn\u00e1 ka\u017ed\u00fd de\u0148 cel\u00fdch 30 rokov. Je prirodzen\u00e9, \u017ee v\u00e1\u0161mu partnerovi sa to nep\u00e1\u010di, ke\u010f v\u00e1\u0161 vz\u0165ah s\u00a0mamou zasahuje do v\u00e1\u0161ho vz\u0165ahu s\u00a0n\u00edm. Je to d\u00f4le\u017eit\u00e9 si uvedomi\u0165, \u017ee ide o\u00a0dva r\u00f4zne vz\u0165ahy a\u00a0svety. Vy ste sa pr\u00e1ve prehupla do toho partnersk\u00e9ho, \u010do ale neznamen\u00e1, \u017ee prest\u00e1vate ma\u0165 mamu rada. Toto by si mala uvedomi\u0165 a\u00a0re\u0161pektova\u0165 aj va\u0161a matka. A\u00a0je na v\u00e1s, ako jej to pod\u00e1te. Mysl\u00edm si, \u017ee poveda\u0165 jej priamo, \u017ee otravuje, je tro\u0161ku netaktn\u00e9. Volila by som sk\u00f4r formu dial\u00f3gu a\u00a0vysvetlenia, l\u00e1skav\u00e9ho ale jasn\u00e9ho, \u017ee m\u00e1te u\u017e svoj s\u00fakromn\u00fd priestor, do ktor\u00e9ho patr\u00ed iba v\u00e1\u0161 priate\u013e, \u017ee ste rada, ak v\u00e1s pr\u00edde nav\u0161t\u00edvi\u0165, ale vtedy, ke\u010f ju sami do svojho priestoru pozvete. Z\u00e1rove\u0148 tie\u017e, \u017ee existuje spolo\u010dn\u00fd priestor vz\u00e1jomn\u00e9ho vz\u0165ahu, do ktor\u00e9ho patr\u00ed pr\u00e1ve ona. D\u00e1te jej t\u00fdm najavo, \u017ee va\u0161a l\u00e1ska k\u00a0nej sa nezmenila a\u00a0z\u00e1rove\u0148, \u017ee mus\u00ed re\u0161pektova\u0165 v\u00e1\u0161 s\u00fakromn\u00fd partnersk\u00fd priestor.<\/p>\n<p>Ak v\u00e1s m\u00e1 skuto\u010dne rada, nebude s\u00a0t\u00fdm ma\u0165 probl\u00e9m a\u00a0nebude v\u00e1s pova\u017eova\u0165 za zl\u00fa, aj ke\u010f zo za\u010diatku to mo\u017eno bude \u0165a\u017eko nies\u0165. To je nie\u010do, na \u010do sa mus\u00edte dopredu pripravi\u0165, s\u00a0t\u00fdm, \u017ee to nemus\u00ed prebehn\u00fa\u0165 \u00faplne hladko a\u00a0\u017ee ju to bude bolie\u0165. Je v\u0161ak na mame ako to zvl\u00e1dne, rovnako aj na v\u00e1s, ako vy zvl\u00e1dnete jej nev\u00f4\u013eu a\u00a0nepr\u00edjemn\u00e9 pocity. Je \u010das oddeli\u0165 sa fyzicky aj emocion\u00e1lne, a\u00a0to je \u00faloha pre v\u00e1s obe.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Dobr\u00fd de\u0148, chcem V\u00e1s po\u017eiada\u0165 o\u00a0radu v\u00a0tak trochu delik\u00e1tnej veci. V\u00a0tridsiatich rokoch som si kone\u010dne na\u0161la priate\u013ea, ku ktor\u00e9mu som pres\u0165ahovala od svojej mamy. T\u00e1 to v\u0161ak nesie dos\u0165 \u0165a\u017eko (ostala doma sama s\u00a0ma\u010dkou a\u00a0papag\u00e1jom) a\u00a0pod r\u00f4znymi z\u00e1mienkami n\u00e1s \u010dasto nav\u0161tevuje. Raz m\u00e1 nape\u010den\u00fd kol\u00e1\u010d, inokedy sa je pr\u00e1ce urodilo nie\u010do na z\u00e1hradke, alebo \u201elen [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":84,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_monsterinsights_skip_tracking":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_active":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_note":"","_monsterinsights_sitenote_category":0,"footnotes":""},"categories":[6],"tags":[],"yoast_head":"<!-- This site is optimized with the Yoast SEO plugin v21.2 - https:\/\/yoast.com\/wordpress\/plugins\/seo\/ -->\n<title>Odp\u00fata\u0165 sa b\u00fdva \u0165a\u017ek\u00e9 - Mgr. 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